Intuitive Consultant

How do I know If it's a Soul Mate connection

There will be an instantaneous familiarity, recognition, and an innate understanding and connection from the beginning that cannot be described logically. You will be psychically attuned to each other, and will feel so alive in each other’s presence. It’s as if when together, you feel more enhanced, alive, and excited! You can communicate on many levels at the same time, often “tuning into each other” and “knowing” what is going on with the other person. You can see the others energy change wihout even needing to talk. The teplepathy is amazing between the two. There will be a shared sense of purpose. A deep love and a feeling of “knowing” each other on a soul level. It will feel as if you are with your true counterpart on every level - which you are - All of the feelings are mutual. There is a deep soul-level bond, and a deep feeling of having much in common on many levels. Physical passion can be extremely intense, or in some soul mate relationships, there is more of an intellectual stimulus, and many times it is both combined. There is chemistry, passion, electricity, and meaning. This is one relationship that will most likely be the most transformative one in your life, and one that you will always remember, no matter what happens.

2. If I’ve really met my soul mate, why is the relationship so difficult? Soul Mate relationships are karmic. You have made a soul “agreement” to come into this life to meet again to uproot and transform each of your deepest healing and growth issues. Naturally, when anyone is faced with having to face and heal eons of negative patterns, there is going to be deep resistance on the ego level. It is vastly difficult to face what we really came into this life to heal. It will be your soul mate, or “twin flame” that will trigger your deepest growth issues to bring them up to the surface to be healed once and for all. Naturally when this happens, there is turbulence within the relationship, because there is inner turbulence within each person as they are facing their deepest issues to heal them. This is a deeply transformative process, and a deeply difficult one. However, once you each see that you are triggering growth within the other, and view it as the true gift that it is, then perhaps some of the resistance will dissipate. In reality, as long as either one or both of you RESIST your growth issues, and resist facing them down to heal them, there is going to be a great deal of difficulty due to this resistance. However, once the resistance stops, and you face what needs to be healed within, then all of that turbulence within the relationship also dissipates, because you are no longer “fighting the river,” but are “going with the flow” where you can truly soar once you stop fighting everything you know deep within your heart to be true. This requires a tremendous amount of self-honesty, and courage! The truth of this matter is that once each of you are true to yourselves, and are completely honest with Self, then the difficulties within the relationship will also be transformed. Being completely HONEST is the key, and that honesty MUST be to Self first, and then to the other.

3 How can I turn the dynamics of this relationship around for lasting happiness?
The only way you can turn the dynamics around is when you turn YOURSELF around, and get REALLY HONEST.
If you feel something, say it. If you have something that is upsetting you, discuss it! If you feel confused, scared, blocked, or lost, talk about it! Honest Communication is the KEY You have to STOP ALL GAMES, manipulation, defences, and be AUTHENTIC and genuine with yourself, and with the other person.Many times people are not ready to face their deepest issues at the same time others are. Sometimes certain issues really need YEARS to be worked through. It is a growth process not a one time event. Sadly many Soul Mates part as the intensity is too strong and FEAR grabs holds and in most cases always one will run, run away from the other in fear.
You BOTH have to want to get together and make it work.All you can do is become your own highest and best. You can’t “wait” for the other person. You MUST live your life to its fullest, in every area. Sometimes the time apart is the greatest gift! It can bring the truth up to the surface within each person, and if that truth means that you really do love each other, and want to be together, you can both make it happen.
If the love is real, it never dies.Once you do this, and genuinely communicate what you are feeling, THEN you can have a chance to turn it all around for lasting happiness, and love.

Barbara Rose